They all see, they all speak, they all on the outside envy, because they all feel she lives a beautiful life, a life with hardly anything serious to worry about, a life more adjected by convenience, luxury, peace, and whatever one may envy about a good married woman's life. And why would they not, when it appears to be that way, but perhaps we all get so lost in our life especially when we face a unhealthy situation that we forget that everyone's life has the same course, and like for our self, for everyone else also there lies a massive difference between what appears and what reality is.
But the unfortunate part is that its not any body's fault, ideally our society is living with principles where a woman hardly has anything within her control. I would not say she is living a miserable life, but is living ordinarily so difficult now that people brand it as a wonderful living ? Are we really going back to the age old thinking where happiness meant 2 meals a day under a manageable roof that would get ones family past a few rains?
Or wait, is it too early to assume that its just society that is to be blamed ? Cant there be a reason why people believe that she lives more than ordinary life ? Cant it be her own nature, her silence ? Her silence over things that otherwise would be considered as "screw ups in life". How much of a possibility it is that the she herself has led people into believing that All is Well ? Very much! So many times when there have been people coming up to her, calling her, telling her how lucky she is, how sweet her life seems to be, but how rare has it been that she has responded denying the sweetness in her life and expressing the bitter end of life?
Its not that life has suddenly taken a turn and she is left without a choice, but it is just that she chose to live this way from the day she was seen off to her husband's place which she had no clue about. A mere consequence of that choice has resulted in she being silent all through out the journey, which standstills today at a position where all she has is Love and care to give, but get not even a two digit percentage of it back from the ones who matter.
In laws, such that they would better not exist, the only significance of their existence is that it is a social topic to gossip about, and it leads to nothing but sometimes entertaining and mostly embarrassing conversations with people both inside and outside the family.
Son, who she wishes has a broader vision to his life where she and her husband would have a larger share. Good in his deeds by far, has made her proud enough with the little bit of achievements at his relatively young age, but at the end of the day it is all too materialistic to give her the real happiness she craves for, specially when he probably is able to give much more than required to the lesser deserving ones.
And finally a husband, who believes conversing with his family would either bring his IQ or energy levels really down. Who still looks confused whether who really would think of his better and who would not. Who after all the years of coming together in this journey of marriage has only seen compromises but still is not realistically thinking in terms of making some.
Sometimes I wonder, lady! what are you made of ? What is it that had got so much resilience in you ? Do you really deserve a life this ordinary ? Do you really deserve to be in the place you are today ? No you ain't tortured, unlike many women in this country but are we here to compare ourselves only with the ones who stand in a worse situation ? Obviously not !!
But the important question to be asked is, WHY ? Why would she just stay quiet even if it meant suppressing her feelings, her perspectives, her ideas ? Even years after her marriage what makes her not stand for herself, her rights! Is she just meant to make compromises, was this the purpose her parents sent her to a new house, new family ? It has become evident by now that she has given up, on so many joys of life, the joy of a husband who could share, love, care equally. A son whom she could see any time she wants, who would make her feel the most special mother ever just like he did in his childhood.
While her Compromises only got bigger each passing day, the value of those got lower and lower and have now almost become nil. It has become a regular practice, a routine for everyone in her life to act according to their convenience forgetting that there is this special person who like forever is selflessly letting you enjoy a highly selfish life. But it is never too late and I hope she does realize that sometimes you have to fight hard to even get what you deserve by Default !
For SHE deserves atmost Respect, for SHE deserves undivided attention and love, for SHE deserves never ending caring, for SHE deserves a life without compromises, and for SHE simply deserves an extraordinary and a beautiful Life, I Pray, the people ought to make it happen, realize her worth and actually make it HAPPEN !!
But the unfortunate part is that its not any body's fault, ideally our society is living with principles where a woman hardly has anything within her control. I would not say she is living a miserable life, but is living ordinarily so difficult now that people brand it as a wonderful living ? Are we really going back to the age old thinking where happiness meant 2 meals a day under a manageable roof that would get ones family past a few rains?
Or wait, is it too early to assume that its just society that is to be blamed ? Cant there be a reason why people believe that she lives more than ordinary life ? Cant it be her own nature, her silence ? Her silence over things that otherwise would be considered as "screw ups in life". How much of a possibility it is that the she herself has led people into believing that All is Well ? Very much! So many times when there have been people coming up to her, calling her, telling her how lucky she is, how sweet her life seems to be, but how rare has it been that she has responded denying the sweetness in her life and expressing the bitter end of life?
Its not that life has suddenly taken a turn and she is left without a choice, but it is just that she chose to live this way from the day she was seen off to her husband's place which she had no clue about. A mere consequence of that choice has resulted in she being silent all through out the journey, which standstills today at a position where all she has is Love and care to give, but get not even a two digit percentage of it back from the ones who matter.
In laws, such that they would better not exist, the only significance of their existence is that it is a social topic to gossip about, and it leads to nothing but sometimes entertaining and mostly embarrassing conversations with people both inside and outside the family.
Son, who she wishes has a broader vision to his life where she and her husband would have a larger share. Good in his deeds by far, has made her proud enough with the little bit of achievements at his relatively young age, but at the end of the day it is all too materialistic to give her the real happiness she craves for, specially when he probably is able to give much more than required to the lesser deserving ones.
And finally a husband, who believes conversing with his family would either bring his IQ or energy levels really down. Who still looks confused whether who really would think of his better and who would not. Who after all the years of coming together in this journey of marriage has only seen compromises but still is not realistically thinking in terms of making some.
Sometimes I wonder, lady! what are you made of ? What is it that had got so much resilience in you ? Do you really deserve a life this ordinary ? Do you really deserve to be in the place you are today ? No you ain't tortured, unlike many women in this country but are we here to compare ourselves only with the ones who stand in a worse situation ? Obviously not !!
But the important question to be asked is, WHY ? Why would she just stay quiet even if it meant suppressing her feelings, her perspectives, her ideas ? Even years after her marriage what makes her not stand for herself, her rights! Is she just meant to make compromises, was this the purpose her parents sent her to a new house, new family ? It has become evident by now that she has given up, on so many joys of life, the joy of a husband who could share, love, care equally. A son whom she could see any time she wants, who would make her feel the most special mother ever just like he did in his childhood.
While her Compromises only got bigger each passing day, the value of those got lower and lower and have now almost become nil. It has become a regular practice, a routine for everyone in her life to act according to their convenience forgetting that there is this special person who like forever is selflessly letting you enjoy a highly selfish life. But it is never too late and I hope she does realize that sometimes you have to fight hard to even get what you deserve by Default !
For SHE deserves atmost Respect, for SHE deserves undivided attention and love, for SHE deserves never ending caring, for SHE deserves a life without compromises, and for SHE simply deserves an extraordinary and a beautiful Life, I Pray, the people ought to make it happen, realize her worth and actually make it HAPPEN !!
